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Carol H Tucker

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Today is the 2nd day of the 31st week, the 29th day of the 7th month, the 210th day of 2019, and: 
  • Army Chaplain Corps Anniversary – created back in 1775 and consisting of ordained clergy who are commissioned Army officers who serve as military chaplains
  • Earth Overshoot Day [AKA Ecological Debt Day] -  started back in 2007, the calculated date on which humanity's resource consumption for the year exceeds Earth’s capacity to regenerate those resources that year.
  • International Tiger Day
  • National Cheese Sacrifice Purchase Day -  supposedly this is about saving your house from mice. You are supposed to buy some cheese today and "sacrifice" it by putting it on a mouse trap to rid your house of any mice.
  • National Chicken Wing Day
  • National Lasagna Day
  • Rain Day
Quote of the day:

"When you look at getting stuck in traffic as an opportunity to slow down (literally!), it can seem like more of a blessing than a nightmare. Getting stressed out won’t make those cars go any faster. Finding ways to enjoy it is a lot more rewarding. It makes it feel less like wasting time."

~  Brad Warner, “How to Not Waste Time


I posted this picture on Facebook and poked my cousin who is a bit of an introvert and has now taken up residence in a tourist area to see if I could get a chuckle.  To my surprise, several people responded that it was a great place mat and that got me to thinking about how the concept of “visiting” has changed over the years.


Both of my grandmothers’ homes enjoyed almost a constant stream of people who just dropped by.   Some were neighbors who walked over, sometimes it was family on their way to one place or another, sometimes it was friends or acquaintances who were out for a drive and just decided to come by, their arrival only heralded by the crunch of tires on the gravel driveway and/or the barking of the dog [back in the day].    It never seemed to bother anyone to find the house closed up and the occupants not home – sometimes they would stick a note in the door or mailbox telling them that they had been by, sometimes they didn’t.  It never seemed to fluster Grandmom, who would greet the visitors effusively and wave them into the house, stopping whatever it was that she was doing and sitting down to talk a spell.  And you never let anyone leave without servicing refreshments!  The table had to be set and the drinks poured and there were always cookies or some cake or pie that could be put out as conversation lingered over the table until the visitors decided it was time to head back home or someone produced a deck of cards or a board game.


Nowadays we make appointments in advance, deliberately clearing our schedules and making a visit an event rather than just a causal dropping in.  I think it started with our parents, at least I don’t remember my mother and father treating visits as casually as my grandmothers did, nor do I remember folks just dropping in at our house.  In my own homes, very few people ever just dropped in – even family would call ahead and make sure we were going to be home and that it was convenient.    


I wonder what changed – was it that our neighborhoods became less community oriented?   Was it that family moved so far away that just stopping by wasn’t practical?  Did we all become so busy that we couldn’t just hang out or didn’t know what to say if we had to just sit and talk?  How did the concept of individual dwellings become that of isolation from one’s fellows?  Is this a temporary phase our society is going through or the direction of the future?  I wonder….

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