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Today is the 4th day of the 12th week, the 22nd day of the 3rd month, the 81st day of 2017, and: 
  • As Young as You Feel Day  -- the saying is that you are only as old as you feel, which can be an encouraging thing unless it is one of those days that you feel as old as Methuselah, neh? 
  • Education and Sharing Day
  • International Day of The Seal
  • National Goof-off Day – a day that few of us have a problem celebrating
  • National Sing Out Day – when was the last time you burst into song?  Bet you it was in the car rocking out to a fav playing at the time or in the shower!  Not many of us intentionally cut loose where someone else can actually hear us….
  • Tuskegee Airmen Day  -- on this day back in 1945, on their way to Berlin, Germany, the Red Tails destroyed three German ME-262
  • World Day for Water (AKA World Water Day) --   designated by the United Nations and first commemorated in 1993, the purpose to focus attention on the importance of universal access to clean water, sanitation and hygiene facilities as well as advocating for the sustainable management of freshwater resources
  • World Day of Metta – yes I had to google “metta” too  http://www.wildmind.org/metta/introduction/what-is-metta
 

ON THIS DAY:  yes lots of stuff happened through the years but it seems as though it all had to do with war and disasters and I just wasn’t in the mood today

 

Quote of the day:

Each day of our lives we make deposits in the memory banks of our children.”

~ Charles R. Swindoll, evangelical Christian pastor, author, educator, and radio preacher

 

Think about it – no matter what you say, no matter how many times you tell your kids something, they see what you do and how you behave, and those memories will provide context and framework for the choices that they make.  I came from a “spare the rod and spoil the child” family who also had very strict ideas of what behavior was acceptable.  Love in my family was very conditional – the message was loud and clear:  if you did not meet expectations, then you were not family.  After realizing my mother was simply doing what her mother and her grandmother before her had done, I spent a lot of effort NOT passing that particular message on to my children, trying to separate my love for them [which is unconditional] from my view of their behavior and choices, thus bringing that particular family behavior to a halt.   However another way that I grew up was carried on -- when my kids were growing up, I was pretty strict with them and yes, I spanked my kids.  My son took the brunt of punishment because he knew exactly how to push my buttons and was not smart enough not to do so, and yes, I have often looked back and now in retrospect I feel I wandered across the line that separates meting out punishment and abuse – it is one of the few regrets that I have in my life.   My daughter and son-in-law made a conscious decision when they knew they were to become parents that they would never spank or slap their children – as she explained to me, how could she teach her daughters it was wrong to hit someone if they were being hit by their parents? 

 

Fact is, just as the quote indicates, what we do is both noted and remembered, and the consequences of our choices reverberate long after we are gone.  So if you want to teach the next generation to have empathy and compassion, you had better be a living example of both to the best of your ability.  IMNSHO, FWIIW:   You can quote the Bible and SAY “love thy neighbor as thyself” in Sunday School all you want , but if your actions show that you blame “them” and are aggressively protecting “yours” then you are not raising Christians no matter what church you are attending or how often.

 

Guess I agree with GK Chesterton [English writer, poet, philosopher, dramatist, journalist, orator, lay theologian, biographer, and literary and art critic]





 

 
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