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Carol H Tucker
Passionate about knowledge management and organizational development, expert in loan servicing, virtual world denizen and community facilitator, and a DISNEY fan
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Be warned:in this very rich environment where you can immerse yourself so completely, your emotions will become engaged -- and not everyone is cognizant of that. Among the many excellent features of SL, there is no auto-return on hearts, so be wary of where your's wanders...
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Today is the 6th day of the 27th week, the 7th day of the 7th month, the 188th day of 2017 [with only 170 shopping days until Christmas], and:
- Chocolate Day -- marks 467 years since chocolate was introduced to Europe. Technically chocolate is a vegetable that comes from the Cacao tree found in tropical rain forests
- Comic Sans Day
- Father-Daughter Take a Walk Day
- Global Forgiveness Day
- Independence Day: Solomon Islands from the United Kingdom in 1978
- National Macaroni Day
- National Strawberry Sundae Day
- Tell the Truth Day
- Taos Pueblo Pow Wow
- Victims of The Dallas, Texas Attack Day
- Wayne Chicken Day[s]
ON THIS DAY: In 1124 Tyre fell to the Crusaders. In 1534 Jacques Cartier made his first known contact with aboriginal peoples in what is now Canada; he traded furs with Micmac. In 1907 Florenz Ziegfeld Jr staged his first Follies on the roof of the New York Theater in New York City. In 1928 sliced bread was sold for the first time (on the inventor's 48th birthday) by the Chillicothe Baking Company of Chillicothe, Missouri. In 1952 the ocean liner SS United States passed Bishop Rock on her maiden voyage, breaking the transatlantic speed record to become the fastest passenger ship in the world. In 1954 Elvis Presley made his radio debut when WHBQ Memphis played his first recording for Sun Records, "That's All Right." In 1959 Venus occulted the star Regulus - this rare event was used to determine the diameter of Venus and the structure of the Venusian atmosphere. In 2003 the NASA Opportunity rover, MER-B or Mars Exploration Rover–B, was launched into space aboard a Delta II rocket. In 2011 "Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows: Part 2," the final movie based on the wizard fantasy books, debuted in London.
What is this “crisis management mode” [CMM] that I reference now and then?
It is a coping mechanism. It is the ability to shut off emotions and pack them away while you deal with the s**t that just hit the fan. It makes one into a tower of strength and an oasis of calm, a source of rational and reasoned speaking, and promotes objectivity and clarity when faced with difficult choices that require realistic assessment. It can also make you appear cold, callous and heartless at times. It is a skill that is forged in the white heat of a dysfunctional family and/or environment. And while I consider the ability to go into this mode an asset, I have learned that [1] I cannot always control the implementation – it activates on its own at times and I find myself in CMM involuntarily – and [2] the cost is of exercising this skill is astronomically high. Angst that has been pushed aside does not just evaporate – it festers, it seethes, it pries at the door shutting it off from your psyche, it attacks your digestive system, it raises your blood pressure, it works on your ability to remember.
You see, sooner or later that box of delayed emotion has to get unpacked and the longer you wait to process what has happened, the worse the reaction will be. Some people never get around to dealing with it because it is just too painful and you end up with a fundamental split with two [or more] individuals inhabiting one physical body [AKA Dissociative Identity Disorder or Multiple Personality Disorder]. IMNSHO, I came pretty close to this with what I have called my Susie Homemaker phase where I acted like a completely different person for about six years. Some find it has altered their ability to interact with friends, family, and the world around them. We write it off and say that what has happened caused the changes, but in truth, it is just as much how we dealt with what is happening as the actual event itself.
When I learned of my daughter’s diagnosis two weeks ago, I went into CMM. I cannot stay there for the next eight months no matter how much angst the family faces – it isn’t good for her or for me.
I’m working on it.
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