Carol H Tucker Passionate about knowledge management and organizational development, expert in loan servicing, virtual world denizen and community facilitator, and a DISNEY fan
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Today is the 17th day of the 5th month, the 138th day of 2016, and there are 221 shopping days until Christmas. While it is not Monday, it is:
International Day Against Homophobia, Biphobia and Transphobia
National Cherry Cobbler Day
National Mushroom Hunting Day
National Pack Rat Day ] just to set the record straight, while I am a confirmed pack rat, I am not a hoarder. I will, however, admit that I watch Hoarders as one of my guilty pleasures – I get to breathe a sigh of relief as my Disaster Area doesn’t look THAT bad after seeing whole houses look like that!]
National Walnut Day
Same Sex Marriage Day – in 2004 the first legal same-sex marriages in the US are performed in the state of Massachusetts
World Neurofibromatosis Day and World Neurofibromatosis Awareness Day
World Telecommunication and Information Society Day
In 1395 Wallachians defeat an invading Ottoman army at the Battle of Rovine,. [bonus points if you know who the Wallachians are without googling]. In 1792 the New York Stock Exchange was founded by brokers meeting under a tree on what is now Wall Street. In 1805 Muhammad Ali became Wāli of Egypt [admit it, if you are from the US your first thought was “did he float like a butterfly and sting like a bee”?]. In 1954 US Supreme Court handed down a unanimous decision in Brown v. Board of Education of Topeka, Kansas declaring “separate but equal” was unconstitutional. In 1970 Thor Heyerdahl set sail from Morocco on the papyrus boat Ra II to sail the Atlantic Ocean. And in 2016 @NASAVoyager is 18 hrs 35 mins 40 secs of light-travel time from Earth (2016:138:120000:1L)
I ran across this quote today by Kurt Vonnegut [in, Mother Night]: “We are what we pretend to be, so we must be careful about what we pretend to be.” One of my deeply held beliefs is the power of “fake it ‘til you make it”. Yes I know that not everyone is a proponent of this, and no I am not talking about deceiving others about your knowledge, skills and abilities. What I am talking about is how to teach yourself something, whether it is to accept a new concept, try out a new outfit, or maybe just to lift your spirits. I try and talk myself into feeling the way that I want to be sometimes, trying to frame the internal dialogue in a positive way if that makes sense. For example, it doesn’t do the slightest bit of good to tell myself “don’t feel jealous” because you’re going to feel how you’re going to feel, neh? But I can tell myself “be glad that they are happy” and focus on not making it about me. The danger is that it is hard to sound sincere about that sometimes when you proffer congratulations….
True story: Lola and I didn’t get along – although she was liked by most of the people who worked for her, she and I were just clashing all the time. She didn’t like me because she felt I wasn’t loyal; I didn’t like her because I felt she was manipulative. It got to the point that I was moved from out under her because she was quite ready to fire me Now Lola was an AVP and she wanted to be a VP. She wanted it a lot – and you have to understand that for women in lending back in the day, it was really difficult to move up to that level. Well after several years, she got her promotion. Was I happy about it? Nope, thought it just proved that playing politics worked. Everyone in the bank knew how we felt about each other and expected me to be upset -- you could’ve heard a pin drop when I marched into her office…. I was able to look her right in the face and offer sincere congratulations, saying “I know that this is something you have wanted for a long time”…. She was stunned [and I think the office was disappointed]. Lola thanked me and we shook hands, and after that we were not friends, but we were able to work together.
But personally? If I am going to be what I pretend to be, I would rather pretend to be Merriweather…
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