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Carol H Tucker
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Always be yourself....
Today is the 3rd day [and not Monday!] of the 25th week, the 21st day of the 6th month, the 173rd day of 2016:
- Atheist Solidarity Day
- Baby Boomers Recognition Day
- Global Orgasm Day
- Go Skateboarding Day
- National Cherry Tart Day
- National Peaches and Cream Day
- National Selfie Day
- Tall Girl Appreciation Day
- World Handshake Day
- World Humanist Day
- World Music Day
n 533 Belisarius' Byzantine expeditionary fleet sailed from Constantinople on a mission to attack the Vandals in Africa. In 1307 Külüg Khan [ the name means "warrior Khan" or "fine horse Khan"] is enthroned as Khagan of the Mongols and Wuzong of the Yuan. In 1900 China formally declares war on the United States, Britain, Germany, France and Japan, as an edict issued from the Empress Dowager Cixi in what became to be known as the Boxer Rebellion. In 2004 SpaceShipOne became the first privately funded spaceplane to achieve spaceflight.
Quote of the day: “Think as you like but behave like others.” ~ Robert Greene’s 38th Law of Power:
“If you make a show of going against the times, flaunting your unconventional ideas and unorthodox ways, people will think that you only want attention and that you look down upon them. They will find a way to punish you for making them feel inferior. It is far safer to blend in and nurture the common touch. Share your originality only with tolerant friends and those who are sure to appreciate your uniqueness.”
I have often made the comment that I am not good at office politics, and it is true. The only organizations I did well in were ones where I had a higher-up who liked and appreciated my knowledge, skills and abilities and perceived the value of my contributions – when I didn’t have [or lost] that advocate in the executive suite, I did poorly. I was aware my very robust individualism and the quirky sense of humor alienated the powers that be and I seldom was regarded with affection by my co-workers -- I was often criticized [yes even in formal reviews] for my vocabulary and told that I was “making a parade of my education” when that was not my intent at all. In fact, it is a mystery to me even this day that I might make others feel like I am putting them down when I often felt very much rejected and put-down! The boss that I liked the best, and went to work for again when he called on me, once told me that the real problem was that I didn’t know how to alter my style and communication to fit the environment I found myself in -- I don’t know how to fit in. In fact, I don’t know how to disappear in a crowd and I never did – back in my school days, teachers always knew my name even if I wasn’t in their class, and I never did figure out how [or why].
Did I crave attention? Complicated answer to that one given I always felt like I was on the outside looking in but I would say no because most of the attention I received was negative and rather hurtful – being a nerd before that was hip was painful. Did I seek notoriety? Simpler answer to that one – no, it just seemed to happen. I would walk into a new place full of hopes and resolves that this time would be different – and it never was. It had to be something I was doing something because the only common dominator was me but I never did figure out what I was doing wrong. The advice was always to “be yourself” but that seemed to be the problem!
My takeaway for today is that I violated 38th Rule of Power consistently – and the consequences have followed me throughout my career. I am not sure I would’ve been much happier if there had been a disconnect between the mask/uniform worn at work/in public and the “real” me. After all, I have chosen to be “me” in my 2nd Life [which is, if you haven’t figured out, inclusive of all the social media, conferences, worlds and games I am in] when I could’ve been someone else…..
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