Carol H Tucker Passionate about knowledge management and organizational development, expert in loan servicing, virtual world denizen and community facilitator, and a DISNEY fan
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beladona Memorial Be warned:in this very rich environment where you can immerse yourself so completely, your emotions will become engaged -- and not everyone is cognizant of that. Among the many excellent features of SL, there is no auto-return on hearts, so be wary of where your's wanders...
Today is Friday and there are 344 shopping days until Christmas. It is also:
Humanitarian day
National Fresh Squeezed Juice day
National Hat day
National Strawberry Ice Cream day
Wikipedia day
International Fetish day
In 69, Otho seized power in Rome but only stayed emperor for three months before apparently committing suicide. And in 1889, things started going better with Coke.
So which is worse: global warming and rising seas ora new ice age?
Seriously, have you ever even thought about how to go about stealing a road?
Can we control our feelings? How about our thoughts? I was skimming through blog posts and this statement in an entry on emotional intelligencecaught my eye: “After all, the only things we can control in life are our thoughts, feelings and behaviors, and if we can manage those, we can lead….” Dead stop. I agree that we are in control of our behavior – how we choose to react defines us as individuals after all -- but controlling the thoughts and emotions? .
My mind works and works and works [I seriously need an off switch, especially in the wee hours of the morning], at any given moment there are about three to five separate lines of thought randomly darting through the gray matter. Some of the thoughts that rattle around in my skull are definitely unkind and some are downright mean, thank heavens my social filters are in place and those thoughts seldom get articulated! That was one of the worst side effects that Frank had to deal with after his strokes – he lost that social filter and whatever came in his head might very well come out of his mouth without him even realizing it. But I don’t think it made him a bad person that he had those thoughts, or even that he lost the ability to censor them, to me it actually made him seem a better person because he managed them for so long.
Feelings play through me the same way and both of them are part of how I interact with the world around me. Again, I try to manage the reactions that they generate, but I definitely don’t have a poker face and folks around me can usually figure out how I am feeling at any one given time. When something really drastic happens I have a switch that starts what I have called in the past “crisis management mode” [CMM] where I stay calm and rational no matter how acute the crisis until it is over and I can fall apart. I’m not as good at flipping that switch as I used to be – spent way too long in CMM after Frank died and Mom had to be put in a home – but I don’t particularly think of it as being in control of my emotions. I wish that I were, I would eradicate some of those negative feelings [e.g. jealousy and bitterness] immediately. Now I choose not to dwell on those negatives, but I can’t seem to control them popping up like persistent weeds at times.
I never did finish the article.
“By Grabthar’s hammer, by the suns of Worvan,” …. you shall be remembered
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