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Carol H Tucker
Passionate about knowledge management and organizational development, expert in loan servicing, virtual world denizen and community facilitator, and a DISNEY fan
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Friend me .. [redux]
In the past two posts, I laid the groundwork for looking at friendships in term of: - Level of association-- how close is s/he to me?
- Depth of engagement-- how much do I know about her/him and how much does s/he know about me?
- Sharing-- giving and receiving support, being present
And then I talked about “real life” and “online” friends, answering the same set of questions for both: - How many friends do you have?
- How long do you stay friends?
- How do you make friends?
- And of those friends, how many do you actually know?
And the last question to answer for the online friends: What do you expect from your friends and what can they expect from you? And when I went to answer this question, I came to a dead stop – when you come right down to it, I expect the same things from the people I know online as I do from the people I have met throughout my life if we are what I consider “friends”.
Years ago, Frank used to call the people that I chatted to online my “imaginary friends”. He kept that up even after meeting Barbara Weaver-Smith and her husband in RL. But the people I have met online are very much real people to me, not avatars, not caricatures. Names come to mind: Denham. Ward. Lavinia. Nevyn. Jared. Coke. Richard. Baron. Merry These are people that I have argued with, talked to, shared emotional experiences, come to understand something of what makes them tick – and become known to them in turn. And there is the family: Lucius. Jax. Jhardin. Tarra. Then there are the partners that I have had in SL: Revilo, Sam and Searaven. Everyone of these people have taken a place in my life
There are layers of intimacy and intensity, neh? Last night I attended a talk in SL by Ericella Sixpence on how to establish and maintain a long distance relationship [LDR]. He focused on five key elements: Desire, Effort, Compromise, Understanding, and Commitment. If all of these are present, in whatever degree of intensity you are operating on, then you have a relationship that will grow and deepen – and I see no reason to differentiate from online and RL.
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